If you’re looking for a good dominatrix or submissive, it can be hard to know where to start. There are so many factors involved: Will they like me? Will I like them? Are we compatible? And, of course: Is all this worth it? The answer is yes! Finding an experienced partner in the BDSM sites who wants to explore the same things as you can be magical, but there’s no denying that it takes some work. Here are some tips for getting started with online dating—or any kind of dating—as a dom or sub:

Do your research.

If you’re going to find the right person, it’s important to do your research. You’ll want to make sure that your new dom is a good match for you and can provide what you need.

There are plenty of resources available online and in person (at events or parties) that can help with this process. If there aren’t any resources near where you live, consider starting one!  Here are some questions that might be helpful when looking for a potential partner:

• What kind of relationship do I want? Do I want more than just play time? What do I expect out of my partner?
• How much experience does my potential partner have? How would they describe themselves as a dominant or submissive? Do they practice safe words/play techniques? Can they answer these questions without hesitation or awkwardness?

Make friends who are into the same kinds of things you’re into.

• Make friends who are into the same kinds of things you’re into. If you love BDSM, it’s important to find people who share similar interests and won’t judge you for being into it. You don’t want to be surrounded by vanilla people who think your lifestyle is weird or abnormal; if that’s what happens, it can really hurt your self-esteem and make it harder for you to be yourself when interacting with other kinky people. So make sure there are enough kinksters around so that everyone feels comfortable expressing themselves without fear of judgment or ridicule!
• Don’t be afraid to ask questions! If there’s something about a certain activity or thing that confuses me (like “why does this rope feel different than my other ropes?”), then I will probably ask about it until I get an answer–and sometimes even after getting an answer if something still doesn’t seem right! It’s okay not knowing everything; just remember: knowledge is power!

Join an online community, or start one yourself.

You can join an online community, or start one yourself.

• Join a dominatrix dating site. These are designed specifically for people who want to date other kinksters in the BDSM scene. They’re often free, but some charge a monthly fee depending on what features you want access to (such as being able to message other members without being charged).
• Join a BDSM community or forum online where you can meet like-minded people who share your interests in bondage and discipline, sadism/masochism (BDSM), or fetishism–and maybe even make friends with them! Some good places include FetLife (fetlife.com), Reddit’s r/bdsm subreddit (/r/bdsm), and FetishFriendly (fetishfriendlynetwork).
• Start your own group if there isn’t already one nearby by finding like-minded folks on these sites then inviting them over for drinks!

Don’t be afraid to find out what you like and don’t like in bed.

• Be open to new things.
• Try to be honest with yourself.
• If you don’t know what you like, ask your partner! They may be able to tell by the way that they touch or kiss you, or if they do something different than before and it feels good. If not, there are plenty of resources out there that explain all kinds of sexual acts in detail so that both partners can learn together (and maybe even have fun doing it).
• If something doesn’t feel good at all–or even hurts–don’t be afraid to say so! Your partner should respect this and stop doing whatever made them uncomfortable immediately; if they don’t, then maybe this isn’t going anywhere after all…

Set boundaries and communicate them clearly, even if they aren’t very specific.

• Set boundaries before the date. It’s important to be clear about what you want, and it’s even more important to let your partner know these things. You may think that saying no is obvious, but sometimes people forget they can say no and get swept up in the moment or pressure from their partner. Your boundaries should include things like how much time you want to spend together before meeting in person (or if), whether or not there will be sex involved, whether there will be any kink play involved at all (if so, what kind?), etc.
• Don’t be afraid to say “no” or “yes.” Communication is key here–you don’t want someone who has different ideas than yours coming on strong without warning! This could lead both parties feeling uncomfortable or frustrated with each other because one person was expecting something different than what actually happened once things got started between them physically/emotionally/etc., which would make everyone feel bad about themselves when really all anyone wanted was an enjoyable experience where everyone felt safe enough emotionally & physically

Expect to go on a few bad dates before you find a good match, but don’t give up!

You’re not going to meet your perfect match on the first date. In fact, you may go on several bad dates before finding someone who is right for you. But don’t give up!

If a person isn’t what you are looking for in a partner or if they don’t treat you with respect, then it’s better to move on than settle for less than what makes your heart sing. You’re worth more than that! If the first person doesn’t work out, try again until one does–it will be worth it in the long run (and short term).

It may take some time, but it’s worth it!

You may find it difficult at first, but don’t give up! You will meet someone who is just right for you. You can explore your sexuality and have fun while doing so. With a dom dating site, your sex life will improve as well as make you happier in general.

Conclusion

We hope these tips will help you get started on your dom dating adventure. The most important thing is to just keep at it, and remember that the process can take time. You might have a few bad dates before finding someone who’s right for you, but if you keep trying and are open-minded about what kind of person might be out there, then we guarantee that eventually you’ll find someone!